Weeks 21 - 30

Study Guide Materials

Week 21: Martha and Mary

  • Read Luke 10:38-42 and start coloring the page. Write down your thoughts as you encounter the sentence completion. Obviously, we want to you to think about why Jesus valued Mary’s behavior. But we don’t want to put down anyone who is more like Martha. We just want to invite you to consider that relationship building such as seating around and listening to each other is as important as “doing” things for others.

  • Try the 4-step process with a friend or a stranger. It really works. You will be surprised how much you get to know about a person when you listen without judgment, asking clarifying questions and give feedback!

  • We invite you to fold the corner of this page because we want to use this relationship-building process again in the holy currency activities that follow.

Week 22: Friends of Friends

  • Do the interviews with your 5 friends in person if all possible. Tell them that you are working through this book and you are examining and learning from your network of relationships. Pace yourself; do perhaps one interview a day.

  • Read about “three degrees of influence” in Chapter 3 of Holy Currencies.

  • I want to apologize to the introverts ahead of time since this and the followings weeks will include some extroverted behaviors like calling people, making appointments, and engaging them in conversations. If you find these activities overwhelming, take some deep breaths, take a walk on your own, meditate, etc. to find your center again. You might want to talk to your AP about how to do these activities. Another option is to do these activities with a friend who is more extroverted.

Week 23: Social Wellness Network

  • Social wellness is about how your wellbeing is supported and nurtured by your relationships. So naming the persons and groups that contribute to your wellness is an important step for you to discern your own sense of wellness or in some case un-wellness.

  • Use the Gracious Invitation process to write a simple invitation for the group or persons whom you want to get to know better. The invitation can be for a lunch or dinner gathering, going to take a walk in the local garden or visit a museum. When you meet with them, remember to use the techniques for listening and asking clarifying questions to build stronger relationships. 

Week 24:  Pledge Card for Relationship

  • Answer the questions in the first page and you will have a better idea of how to complete the pledge card. Hopefully, by now you have had practice in building relationships, so what you promise to do through this pledge should be realistic and achievable.

  • Color the pledge card and you will find the completion date that you need to fill in.

  • Find an Accountable Person for this pledge card. He/she can be the same AP you have been reporting to or the AP of the last pledge card but can be someone else. It would be fun to explain to the new AP what you are doing.

  • Make the pledge card unique and beautiful. Take a photo and send it to the person who oversees stewardship ministry in your community. If this person doesn’t know what it is, you will have the opportunity to explain to him/her what you (and your group) are doing.

  • Small group: Gather your group, share experiences of the last few weeks and work on the pledge cards together. Remember to practice presenting the Respectful Communication Guidelines and use Mutual Invitation.

Week 25: Friends with Common Interests

  • This week, we invite you to find someone in church and someone outside (in your workplace, school, neighborhood, etc.) whom you think might have similar interests.

  • Use the Gracious Invitation process to write a simple invitation for the person to have coffee/tea, lunch, take a walk etc. When you meet with them, remember to use the techniques for listening and asking clarifying questions to build stronger relationships.

Week 26: Friends and Enemies

  • The second half of this week is going to be a little harder. We are inviting you to consider writing a letter or even meet with an “enemy” have a gracious conversation. If this is too scary, you can skip it but don’t skip it until you attempt to write the letter and possible a gracious invitation first.

Week 27:  Love Your Enemies/The Dialogue Song

Week 28: Imagine

  • Have fun people watching this week. Find a spot at a cafe, park bench, a window, etc., and start coloring the first page and meditate on the words.

  • Here comes the fun part; do an imaginary dialogue with one of the persons you observed. Start by saying hello and then see what happens. Post your dialogue/comic with #holycurrenices. Check out the dialogue that other fellow HC drawers came up with.

  • Small group: Gather your group, share your comic/dialogue and share experiences of the last few weeks. Remember to practice presenting the Respectful Communication Guidelines and use Mutual Invitation.

  • Time to check in with your AP. 

Week 29: Way, Truth and Life

  • Read chapter 5 of Holy Currencies to learn more about the Currency of Truth.

  • Have fun coloring the page. Feel free to add characters in the drawing. Remember to post your creation using #holycurrencies.

Week 30: Pledge Card for Truth

  • Answer the questions in the first page and you will have a better idea of how to complete the pledge card. You don’t have to figure out completely how to discern the truth about the issues you named. The following weeks’ activities will help you on this.

  • Color the pledge card and you will find the completion date that you need to fill in.

  • Find an Accountable Person for this pledge card. He/she can be the same AP you have been reporting to or the AP of the last pledge card but can be someone else. It would be fun to explain to the new AP what you are doing.

  • Make the pledge card unique and beautiful. Take a photo and send it to the person who oversees stewardship ministry in your community. If this person doesn’t know what it is, you will have the opportunity to explain to him/her what you (and your group) are doing.

  • Small group: Gather your group, share experiences of the last few weeks and work on the pledge cards together. Remember to practice presenting the Respectful Communication Guidelines and use Mutual Invitation.